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What is denial
Someone who smokes and refuses to admit that it is bad for them. Rush Limbaugh said "It kills 50 years to kill someone, if it even does". He died of lung cancer.
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What is all or nothing thinking. Or black and white thinking
Thinking that things are always this and never that is an example of what type of thinking trap.
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Doing things in smaller steps to decrease anxiety or fear of doing something.
What is a fear ladder?
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"But"
What word should you never use with an apology?
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Because it can block you from seeing your own reality or prevent you from addressing a problem
A defense mechanism initially served an important purpose in protecting you. Why does it eventually become a problem
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What is jumping to conclusions
Your girlfriend is texting your friend. You assume she likes him. She is really planning a surprise party for your birthday. What is this an example of?
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Anger can motivate us to change, but it can also harm relationships, cause issues in your personal life, cause resentments, builds up
Name one reason why anger can be useful and one reason it can be harmful.
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The other person's behavior. Example "I am sorry you are mad"
What should an apology not focus on?
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What is displacement
Dana and Naomi argue about Naomi sneaking out at night. It causes her to be late to school. When her friend asks her what is wrong she yells at her to mind her own business. What is this defense mechanism?
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What is catastrophizing
You get a text from your brother saying "call me, it's important". You automatically think that someone in your family is badly hurt.
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Because it comes after another emotion. Example: You feel fear or anxiety, you become angry.
Why is anger a secondary emotion?
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Who is right or wrong
What else should an apology not focus on?
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What is repression
This is a defense mechanism that causes a painful or traumatic memory that is forgotten for a period of time
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Thinking traps can increase anxiety, create conflict in relationships, disconnects you from reality, prevents you from having an open mind.
Name 3 reasons why thinking traps are harmful.
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It decreases our ability to tolerate or move through difficult experiences.
Why does avoidance increase anxiety?
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Back it up with action, not just words.
What is the most important for backing up your apology in the future?
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What is projection
This defense mechanism means that you can't admit your own feelings about something so you say that other people have a problem with those feelings. You can't admit you don't like a person, so you say the person doesn't like you
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What is confirmation bias
I think to myself "I am not going to graduate". When the teacher marks you late, you fail a test and you are asked to stay after school to make up tests, you say to yourself "see this is why I am not going to graduate."
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The rats that were alone in their cages drank the cocaine water to the point of death. The rats that had other rat friends, activities to stimulate the brain, good snacks and exercised rarely if ever drank the cocain water.
What happened at Rat Park?
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Change the subject or get the other person to stop talking about it.
The goal of an apology should not be to
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