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Honoring the validity of two sides. Avoiding a tug-of-war. Not getting STUCK.
What is a Dialectic?
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Validation is communication to another person (or to yourself) that their thoughts, emotions, or actions make sense and are understandable.
What is Validation?
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False. Reinforcement can create change without a conversation and without an agreement for change.
True or False: For behaviorism to work, the person needs to WANT to change
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[Leader discretion.]
(1 individual) Make a validating statement to anyone on the other team.
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3. DBT can be effective and some of the skills don’t work for me.
Which of the following is a dialectical statement?
1. DBT is stupid and will never help me. 2. DBT is the best, has the most talented & awesome group leaders, and is all I will ever need. 3. DBT can be effective and some of the skills don’t work for me. |
False. We only validate behavior that is valid.
True or False – We validate behavior such as skipping class if we understand why a person does that behavior.
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True. Reinforcement comes after the behavior.
True or False: The reward/reinforcement that your give has to come after you observe the behavior you want to change.
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3. And
150 - Which of the following words is encouraged in DBT:
1. Should 2. But 3. And 4. Never |
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"Call the Dialectic"
When tensions between two people get very "hot", DBT encourages them to..... (Name the skill)
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"Should" is a judgmental word that indicates non-acceptance of a thought, emotion, or action.
Why do we avoid the word “should” when validating ourselves or someone else?.
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a) increasing a behavior. [We do like c) being mindful of the behavior and if it is the teens who answered c), we might give it to them (but we are not biased).]
Behaviorism (Reinforcement) is about a) increasing, b) decreasing, or c) being mindful of … a behavior.
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[Leader discretion.]
Make a statement that is self-validating of an emotion.
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[Leader discretion.]
Name a way to think dialectically.
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Validation helps family communication by SHOWING that family members are listening to each other and making the effort to see their perspective.
Describe why Validation is good for families.
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[Leader discretion.]
Name two possible reinforcers that often influence people's behavior. (There are many possible answers here, your task is to name two).
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3. Validate any behavior so you don’t seem judgmental
Which of the following is NOT an effective strategy for validating someone?
1. Assume the best about the person 2. Provide praise & reassurance 3. Validate any behavior so you don’t seem judgmental 4. Understand that your validation might be hard to accept, or that it might seem insincere |
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[Leader discretion.]
Give an example of a dialectic in your life. HINT: Use the term "and at the same time"
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[Leader discretion.]
(3 individuals) Make a validating statement to your parent/teenager.
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[Leader discretion.]
Tell another story of a time when you did (or could have) reinforced a family member’s behavior and tell what the reinforcer was.
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[Leader discretion.]
200 – Role Play: Role play this scenario, stating your beliefs as passionately as possible. Then, start using skills to move to the middle path. Teenager has been having problems with a teacher. The teen feels the teacher is unfairly critical and singles the teen out. There have been several times the teenager got in trouble for something the teen didn’t do. Parents agree that the teacher is wrong. Teenager wants the parents to go to the school & talk with the principal about this problem, while parents want the teenager to handle the problem using DBT skills.
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